Uma mãe Nasceu desenvolveu uma parceria com o site Vida Ativa onde irá publicar alguns textos sobre a nossa perspectiva e o nosso projecto de informação para futuras mães e pessoas relacionadas com gravidez e partos. Assim, não te admires se vires textos com apenas os primeiros dois parágrafos e o link para o texto inteiro no site VidaAtiva.
Aqui fica o primeiro, esperamos nós de muitos, texto já publicado.
ONDE PÁRA O TEMPO: a noção de tempo na gravidez
O tempo é um tema recorrente na sociedade de hoje. Tudo roda à volta do tempo. Começamos o nosso dia com um alarme que nos diz que horas são, começamos a nossa manhã atrasados para o trabalho, corremos e stressamos e o nosso dia já está marcado, continuamos a correr e a stressar o dia todo. Há tanto para fazer, enchemos as nossas agendas com todo o tipo de reuniões e tarefas e fazemo-nos tão ocupados para podermos fazer parte de uma comunidade stressada sempre em movimento.
Há muito tempo atrás, a natureza determinava a passagem do tempo. A Lua, o sol, as estações determinavam o que plantar, colher e quando, quando trabalhar e descansar. Os seres humanos estavam mais conectados consigo próprios e ouviam os seus corpos, permitiam-se ter tempo para receber o dia a noite, o tempo meteorológico, as estações e afins. Respeitavam a sua própria natureza. Em muitas sociedades, ainda governadas por mulheres, eram elas que conduziam o ritmo da comunidade.
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Uma mãe Nasceu developped a partnership with the online site Vida Ativa, where we will publish some texts about our perspective and our information project for future moms and interested people on pregnancy and birth. This way, don’s be surprised if you see our texts with just two paragraphs and the link to their website with the full copy. Here is the first, we hope of many, texts already published.
HOW TO STOP TIME – a notion of time during pregnancy
Time is a current subject in today’s society. Everything comes and goes around time. We start our day with an alarm that lets us know the time, we start our morning late for work, we run and stress and our day is already set, we continue to run and stress all day long. There is so much to do, we fill our agendas with all sorts of meetings and tasks and we make ourselves busy so we can fit in in a ”running and stressed community”.
A very long time ago, nature would determine the passing of time. The moon, sun, seasons would say what and when to plant and to pick, when to work and to rest. Mankind was more connected to themselves and they would listen to their bodies, they would allow themselves to have the time to receive day and night, the weather, the seasons and so on. They would respect their own nature. In many societies, still ruled by women, women would conduct the rhythm of community.
Today, time rules our lives. Clocks, the unnatural speed of processes, the fast and fastest production, the urgency that lies behind everything is really present. We barely have no time to breath with so much to do, to show what we have done and we do not stop to think if this is what we want for ourselves.
And all this speed is very much manifested in today’s pregnancies and births. Babies no longer have the time to show their mothers they are ready to be born. Moms no longer listen to their bodies and their wisdom and few are those that truly connect to their babies but through machines that assure them that all is well with them both. And doctors they just want to rush home to their families, to their days off, to their lives and time is just a detail that everybody can bend. And today women trust more their doctors than themselves.
I am not saying that now everything should go back in time and machines should be set a side. I am not saying that C-sections should not be done or only a natural birth is the way to go. What I want to say is that women should be more in touch with what they want, to what they know and to how they would like to have their babies and that should be respected whenever possible. From pregnancy to labour everything has to take the time that is needed and no baby should be born days, weeks or even months before they are ready for that.
Some time ago a woman I know was sharing how she was in Denmark and she was in her niece’s birth that ocurred in a hospital set. It was a 44 hour birth with a lot of patience and confidence and no one was in a rush, everyone worked for mother and baby to take their time in what was happening and at the end my friend was just happy to be able to see this alive. Her question was very much my own, why should we be surprised because of a 44 hour birth. It was what had to happen and everything was perfect. And above all, everyone was with what was happening, no one wanted to change anything. Every one respected mother baby and time as it was.
Usually we want to avoid pain and get pleasure, so I guess that is why there is so much hurry about a labour setting, moms want to run away from pain, husbands cannot help their wives so they also want it to be fast, doctors try to help by giving their epidurals and cesarians, but why not just being with what is happening at the moment?
Today, we already start seeing some women that are looking for different solutions in their labours, that are questioning their options, that want to respect their bodies, their processes and their own time. And all we need I guess is to know that there are options we can choose from and we do not need to run against time. We can much on the contrary accept things as they happen and that is ok, time is not a problem, it has never been.